Raising our children in love and light.

Children are so pure. I have always loved children, but I never really appreciated the purity of them until I had one of my own. The day I had my sweet Emilia Blake, I viewed all children differently.

Children are little sponges that soak up all knowledge surrounding them, good and bad. Children are the precious gems to their parents, to their mama and papa bears. The love for your child is impossible to put into words (but I’ll try). A mothers/ fathers love is unbreakable, protective, pure, unwavering and fulfilling. You want no harm ever to come near your precious human.

But, this is life. This is the world we live in… pain is inevitable. It’s SO hard for me to accept that there will be times in my sweet little humans life that will damage her psychi. Times that will be a brick in the temple of her being. Bricks that I have not laid. There is no way for me to stop this. I can, however, lay the foundation in which her temple is built.

I can instill good morals, a loving heart, a kind soul and free spirit that handles these bad experiences with love and light. Light always overcomes darkness, and with that, I have the upper-hand.

Proverbs 22:6 ESV
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:4 ESV
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 29:15 ESV
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 23:13 ESV
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.

Proverbs 13:24 ESV
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Proverbs 29:17 ESV
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.

Psalm 127:3-5 ESV
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

Let us raise our children in love and light. This is how we can improve the future for all!


Self-care is a necessity

We don’t need the beginning of a new year to have a fresh start. But it sure does help us to reflect on who we are, who we’ve been, who we want to be.

This New Year has helped me to see that I don’t care for myself as I should… physically or mentally. So I put together a short and sweet list of things to be more conscious of as I progress through each day, week, and year. Eventually, after enough practice our mindset will change, and these will become easier.. perhaps a part of our nature.

  1. Self-awareness: to be more self-aware of the way I treat others and myself. I am a mother to a beautiful soul, and the way I am molds who she will become. I want to show her and others how to identify the good and bad in oneself and take the proper action to improve. We can always be better.
  2. Health conscious: to be more health conscious of the foods I eat, and to keep myself physically active consistently throughout a week. This will help to keep a good mood, good energy and good vibrations.
  3. Stress reduction and relief: to participate in more stress reducing activities like meditation, working out,  writing, and discussing. I tend to keep things bottled up until I implode… or explode. Having more than one outlet only makes your mind clearer of the clutter.
  4. Faith restoration: to build my faith to a point where it is impenetrable. With God as my shield, nothing can tear me down. And if I can’t be torn down, then I can be a shield for others as they also build up their relationship with God. Until they can become a shield for others.. and so on. I want to be a warrior for God. So we can build up an Army whose goal is to replace hate and evil with love.

That’s it! Short and sweet, but all encompassing. Practice these things and you will see change. Positive change. For yourself, and for all around you. Happiness is contagious. Lets spread it.

Dreams connected to food?

Are nightmares/ dreams connected to our eating habits?

As you all probably know, I have changed up my eating habits a bit (I talk about it some  here). The main change is avoiding sugar. I have noticed a difference in mood, energy, and skin to name a few. My husband, however, has not jumped on this bandwagon.

So this morning, I wake up feeling refreshed, a bit more tired than usual, but I still had a good nights sleep.. no disruptions. My husband wakes up feeling a little… needy. When I ask what’s up, he says it’s because he had a bad dream.

This made me begin to wonder… are the foods we eat the cause of bad dreams? I ate (pretty) healthy yesterday.. while my husband did not.

As the analytical thinker I am, I began to do some research. Looking for concrete/ hard facts that solidify the connection between food and dreams (good or bad).

I was not able to conclude that what we eat causes good or bad dreams simply because I couldn’t find solid evidence. However, people do believe there is a connection. The connection is based on the type of foods you eat right before bedtime. You must consider the work your body has to go through to break down and process the foods you eat. And while your body is supposed to be resting, giving it something to do (like process foods) while you sleep throws things off.

I will insert the text of an interesting article I found on foxnews.com (what I believe to be a somewhat credible source) about how certain foods effect your ability to get good rest and increase the chance of nightmares.

10 Foods to Avoid Before Bed

We lose sleep over so many things, so the last thing we need is our late-night dining decisions working against us.

Everyone likes a little nighttime nosh, but what you decide to nibble on can drastically affect how well you sleep. While some foods help your slumber, others (fatty or greasy options) can wreak havoc on your rest.

If you’re looking for a peaceful night, here are the 10 foods you should avoid right before bed.

1. Ice Cream

A bowl of ice cream might be the most comforting bad-breakup bed accompaniment, but there’s a limit to its soothing properties.

For starters, ice cream is loaded with fat, so you’re not going to give your body a chance to burn any of it before bed, and then all of the sugar is going to pump your body full of energy right before you hit the hay, so you’ll be sending your body divergent messages. On top of that, the sugar just gets stored and turned to fat, too, so this is a lose-lose situation all around.

It’s also been discovered that eating high-sugar foods before bed causes nightmares, so while the taste might be calming, the results are unnerving.


Seeing celery on this list might surprise you, but there’s a simple reason for it: celery is a natural diuretic. What that means is it’s going to make you pee a bit more than usual.

Diuretics elevate the rate of urination because they push water through the system. So that means that if you’re dipping into too much celery right before bed, your body might wake you out of your slumber for a pee break.

Vegetables are some of the most nutrient-rich foods you can give your body, but avoid ones like celery for the sake of uninterrupted sleep.

3. Pasta

Pasta is a fast and easy fix for those craving a quick bite before bed, but it’s not your ideal nighttime snack.

Pastas are straight carbohydrates, and if you’re going to bed right after eating, that’s all going to turn into fat. On top of that, the things added to pasta — oils, cheeses and heavy cream or tomato sauces — will only add to the crowd in your love handles.

Also, most pasta has a high glycemic index, which means it’s more likely to play with your blood-sugar levels, delay sleep and wake you up at night.

4. Pizza

If you want to give your stomach a good workout before bed, feed it some greasy, salty pizza. Your stomach, like the rest of your body, would love to relax when most of the other organs are chilling, too, but pizza isn’t exactly a light meal. Your tummy will have to get busy.

The layer of tomato sauce has high levels of acidity, which is just another catalyst for acid reflux, but in general, fatty and greasy toppings — especially high-fat meats and cheeses — do a good enough job of their own on stirring up heartburn. That’s not the wakeup call you want at night. If you’re going to do it, be nice to your stomach and check out these nutritional pizza toppings.

One slice isn’t the end of the world, but when’s the last time you stopped at one slice?

5. Candy Bars

If nightmares about the monster in the closet or the gremlins under the bed disturb your sleep, you might want to avoid candy bars.

One of the easiest — and worst — ways of breaking out of a deep slumber is from a nightmare that’s very real to us. A recent study has shown that 7 out of 10 people who eat junk foods like candy bars before bed are more likely to be prone to nightmares. The hypothesis is that the high levels of sugar create more nightmarish brain waves. Try these junk food substitutes instead.

Cross this late-night snack off your list if you’re looking for a peaceful night.

6. Cereal

Mitt Romney loves a good bowl of cold cereal right before bed, but he might want to be careful which one he chooses or he won’t get the rest he needs.

Cereals often contain high amounts of refined sugar and are chock-full of carbohydrates. That might set you off on a bit of a spike and crash in your blood sugar levels, which is not the ideal way to put your body at peace before bedtime.

Instead of reaching for sugary cereals, go for healthier cereals. Those that are whole-grain and have low sugar will quench the craving but won’t keep you up.

7. Garlic

You might want to avoid garlic before bed if you’re sleeping with a partner, but it’s best avoided for reasons besides bad breath. Garlic is known as a “hot herb,” and, along with spicy food, it tends to have some properties in it that can cause heartburn.

It’s known to sometimes have the side effect of upsetting the stomach, so if you have a weak stomach or are vulnerable to acid reflux, the last thing you want to do is light the fire right before you lie down to rest.

8. Dark Chocolate

Who doesn’t like to sneak a little nub of chocolate before bed to get that warm feeling inside? Unfortunately, if you’re aiming for a good night’s sleep, dark chocolate is one of the foods you’d better avoid.

Dark chocolate is a sneaky source of caffeine, which is known to perk you up. Almost all chocolate contains some level of caffeine, and on top of that, it’s loaded with stimulants like theobromine, which is known to make your heart race a little bit.

The lone saving grace is white chocolate, which doesn’t have theobromine and is usually short on caffeine.

9. Alcohol

There’s a general belief that copious amounts of alcohol puts you into a deep daze and produces great sleep, but that’s not fully accurate. While alcohol does help you get to sleep, it doesn’t lead to long-lasting and refreshing rest.

Alcohol actually interferes with the restorative functions of sleep, often paving the way for shallow sleep and several awakenings throughout the night. On top of that, people who regularly use alcohol to fall asleep develop a dependency on it, which creates a frustrating cycle.

If you’re aiming for a deep, peaceful sleep, alcohol is to be avoided.

10. Red Meat

After a big portion of red meat — be it a nice brisket or a big, juicy steak — most of us undo the top button on our jeans and give way to the snooze-inducing itis.

The problem is that red meat is loaded with proteins and fats that will keep your body hard at work throughout the night. To achieve a deeper sleep, you ideally want all your systems at peace — and meat takes longer to digest than any other foods.

Don’t avoid red meats altogether, as they have high levels of iron and tryptophan, which helps sleep. Just don’t eat it right before bed, or your body will be busy breaking it down all night.


I also want to point out that according to an article on Psychology Today (article URL below), the fact that you believe there is a connection between dreams and foods, may be the only reason there is a connection. I don’t agree because of what I’ve read above, but here is the info for you to conclude for yourself.


Food and dream connection – real or not… I know I will be carefully considering what I eat before bed from now on. If not for better dream quality, then for my body to truly rest and recover while I sleep.